When we know the "why" behind a behavior, we can respond better, smarter and more effectively to what's going on around us. When we get defensive to a behavior or response we are not expecting, we shut down the learning. Getting defensive is easy. It's our natural fall back response. Learning the "why" is much more difficult. It requires we stop. Take a second. And get Curious.
I know this may sound obvious or you may instinctively think “Of course my child's room is safe” but let's break down why this is so important for laying the foundation of healthy character development and 3 ways you can make sure your child views their room as a safe place.
How your child rates on simple character measures in Kindergarten will predict if your child will graduate from high school on time, complete a college degree, and be employed in a stable and long term job as an adult. We know these things from as early as Kindergarten. Let’s take this a step further. We also know that a child’s lack of positive character skills in Kindergarten can predict if that child will be involved with the police before adulthood, the number of arrests they will have, the likelihood of living in public housing, and their engagement in risky binge drinking behaviors. All of this from as early as Kindergarten. It’s been studied over and over again on large sample sizes where they followed the same children for almost 20 years(1). And we know time and time again, that IQ scores, SAT scores, Achievement testing, and even letter grades, are not as accurate at predicting long-term success outcomes as character...
Quick questions to load up your parenting toolbox with easy to ask questions to help encourage AMBITION in your child.
Great for all ages!